Spanking you severely for punishment so hard that my hand hurt.
Isolating you in your room for punishment.
Calling you rude and obnoxious names when I was angry at you (e.g. "slut").
Leaving you in your bed to cry in the early evening when we lived in Cool Valley.
Making you attend Sunday school at the First Unitarian church in Chicago where you screamed your head off.
Making you attend art classes at the Biltmore Art Museum.
Saying derogatory things about the friends you ran around with.
Having sexual thoughts about you when you were a teenager.
Taking your mother's side in disagreements you had with her.
Nagging you about attending classes at Miami Dade.
Making you attend first grade at the Montessori school.
Insisting that you go and stick it out at the New York state camp.
Requiring that you and your brother sit together in the back seat on long trips.
Following my beliefs only in setting guidelines for raising you.
Not calling an ambulance to take you to the hospital when you took all those pills.
Spending too much time with my work and not enough leisure time with you in father daughter activities.
Insisting that you take part in family activities after you were out on your own with your own friends.
Looking down on people you considered friends (e.g. Belinda).
Making you go to sleep away camp or visiting relatives instead of taking family vacations to places (e.g. Washington, DC).
Role modeled being to hard on myself so that you learned to expect to much of yourself so that you get tension headaches.
Making you watch mother cry when you had done something that upset her.
Trying to get you to take part in more school activities.
Making you take part in family discussions especially when I was being calm and you were angry.
Waiting until the morning to talk with you about your coming in late at night (e.g. saying to you "We will talk about this in the morning.").
Telling you one of the reasons the reason you couldn't stay out late was because mother couldn't go to sleep until you got home.
Making you take a quiet time for study or otherwise each day.
Restricting you to watching TV programs that you had outgrown and otherwise restricting your TV privileges.
Making you work out a contract with me about your financial support tied to school with Rod Jackson.
"Nagging" you about your school work and life style to the point that you didn't call home that often.
Making you go to school on skip days when most of the other student's parents turned their heads the other way.