Understanding my need for companionship

I enjoy and desire female companionship which will come in due time. I am learning how to live with myself by myself in a self sufficient way before beginning a new long term relationship.

Breaking a long standing codependency

I have spent years as a people pleaser and controller. I extend help, get angry when it isn't acknowledged, and then experience myself as a victim. In the past, this helped me manipulate (control) other people's feelings and behavior. I have found this to be destructive.

Clarifying the need for monogamous intimacy

I have learned that the sexual (physically intimate) dimension is too heavy not to be monogamous. I got carried away with the fad during the 1970s only to discover that open relationships where not as easy nor as beneficial as some claimed.

Supporting outside friendships

I have discovered that close (mentally and emotionally intimate) outside relationships with people of the same or opposite sex are healthy in nurturing my and my companion's development. These relationships are encouraged and supported.

Providing a significant other with needed space

We each need our own private mental, physical, and emotional space from time to time. This is recognized for my significant other and assured for them.

Learning about safe sex

AIDS is a reality. I am learning how to have relationships in which we freely discuss issues around sexually transmitted diseases.

Exploring the spiritual aspects of sex

I have a long standing curiosity about the Tantric aspects of sex. This has been reinforced by my not always needing a climax to have satisfying physical intimacy. This is an area for my future discovery.

Discovery Summary