As my psychosynthesis guide helped me plumb the breath and depth of my witches' brew of subpersonalities, we stumbled onto insight after insight that seemed at times to come faster than I could integrate them. To help make sense of the avalanche, I prepared a list of discoveries grouped into four categories: Transformation, Self, Relationships and Intimacy. Click on the title for an explanation of the items listed.

Transformation

• Doing the most profound work in my life
• Transitioning to a new level of functioning
• Recognizing the need for a transition
• Shaking up my consciousness
• Experiencing and surviving deep grief
• Transcending my life box
• Underlining the value of my personal search
• Doing counseling as an ongoing process
• Identifying and integrating my subpersonalities

Self

• Taking the time to smell the flowers
• Taking things one day at a time
• Experiencing the need for balance at the gut level
• Knowing when to back off from my intensity
• Liberating my vision from the fabric of another's down
• Clarifying my values
• Letting go gracefully
• Learning to live on my own
• Transitioning to the forest dweller phase
• Identifying my bliss
• Clarifying my roles
• Holding to my ideal weight

Relationships

• Learning that others do not think as I do
• Identifying and expressing my resentments
• Moving away from a deferring personality
• Opening up to and expressing feelings
• Expressing my vulnerability
• Discovering the need for boundaries
• Avoiding "say what I want to hear" setups
• Learning that I should state my needs
• Being clear with others about stating their needs
• Learning to nudge opportunities with sensitivity
• Taking care how humor is used
• Learning how to communicate my metaphors
• Hearing and speaking in the other's language
• Seeking equality in relationships

Intimacy

• Understanding my need for companionship
• Breaking a long standing codependency
• Clarifying the need for monogamous intimacy
• Supporting outside friendships
• Providing a significant other with needed space
• Learning about safe sex
• Exploring the spiritual aspects of sex

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